How You Can Keep Going Longer During Sex – Dealing With Rapid Climax
Even the most experienced lover may find that he ejaculates prematurely from time to time. Since it’s so common, we can assume stopping early ejaculation is almost a completely natural desire. Consequently some men need to learn the art of lasting longer during sex, to enable them to obtain maximum sexual pleasure for themselves and completely satisfy their partner during sex.
But fast ejaculation isn’t only a difficulty of sexual fulfillment for the woman: men who consistently reach climax too soon experience a feeling of failure which can affect their self- esteem as a man. Not to mention the fact that nearly all women who routinely have sex with a man who ejaculates too quickly are sexually frustrated and unsatisfied, no matter if they have orgasms by genital masturbation or cunnilingus. This is because they actually want the intimacy and connection of extended lovemaking.
What this means, therefore, is if you wish to strengthen the quality of your partnership in all areas, both inside and outside the bedroom, you as a man need to take control of your love life and learn how to keep going longer when you make love. The average length of sexual intercourse is less than three minutes, which will not satisfy most women, even if they’ve achieved orgasm before intercourse starts. Women want to feel the man has the power to last longer in bed so that they can enjoy the sense of intimacy and connection which making love gives them.
Even so, it can be a challenge to deal with premature ejaculation. Wrapped up in the exhilaration and arousal of making love, all the good intentions which a man may have before he gets into bed tend to go out of the window fairly rapidly, and a cycle of rapid ejaculation and low self- esteem can becomea downward spiral.
Having said that, when you know how to do it, controlling early ejaculation can be a lot easier than you ever imagined. What follows could make all the difference to your ability to control your tendency to ejaculate too soon during lovemaking, and the great thing is that these tips are both simple and effective.
The first requirement for controlling premature ejaculation is that you are 100% committed to improve your performance in bed. I’ve met a lot of men who say that they want to control it, but when they actually get into bed their good intentions quickly evaporate in the excitement of making love. As I say, decide right now that you’re going to control premature ejaculation and develop greater staying power. Do it for your partner’s sake, if not your own, because when she is happier in bed, your whole relationship will improve.
Second: discover ways to relax as you have sex. Of course a lot of tension can build up in the excitement sexual intercourse, that’s only natural. But the reality is that when your muscles are tense and your body is aroused – which you see in the form of shallow breathing and slight perspiration- you’re almost certainly going to ejaculate more quickly than you would if you were more relaxed. One way that you can prove this to yourself is to make love in the man on top position and then to try sex with the woman on top. In the first case you’re much more tense, and you’re likely to ejaculate much more quickly.
Surprisingly, it is possible to remain relaxed and your breathing deep and slow even when you become wrapped up in the excitement of sexual arousal. What you should do is maintain part of your mind alert to how tense you are and how deep your breathing is. Each time you sense you’re becoming tense, consciously relax your muscles; each time you notice your breathing is shallow, deliberately slow it down and take regular deep breaths. These two tactics can dramatically improve your staying power and help you to last much longer.
Third: ensure that you are sensitive enough to the signals your system is giving you to understand how near you are to having an orgasm. The majority of men who wish to delay your orgasm have little awareness of how near they are to the point of ejaculatory inevitability ( that’s the point where you already know you will ejaculate and nothing can stop it happening ). And so, when you actually have awareness of how aroused you are, you have the power to slow down the rhythm of sex or stop making love altogether until your arousal is dropped to a safe level.
Ensure that you have at an hour to yourself and that you will not be disturbed before beginning to masturbate with olive oil. Repeatedly come to the point where you feel you might reach orgasm, but maintain an awareness of how aroused you are, and ensure that you notice the signals that indicate your approach to the point of orgasm, and stop before you ejaculate.
When you begin this exercise, you will find that your awareness increases dramatically – and very quickly! Before long you’ll bring yourself to the point of ejaculation without having an orgasm. You should masturbate continually for an hour without ejaculating; increase and reduce how much arousal you experience, and take note of the way it feels in your body when you approach sexual climax.
When you’re making love you must know how aroused you are – and that sensation lets you know. This is a simple technique which can extend your ability to last longer in bed . Most men who try it rapidly discover that they can make love to a partner and increase their staying power even further.